Friends are family we choose; but not always

Research says, as per hierarchy, what we see at the bottom of all relationships is friendship. But with times, this study shows no truth. In fact, friends, and the term friendship with growing times has been able to affirm a strong place in all of our lives. What we don’t  tell to our parents, and siblings or at times the lover, but share with somebody else is a friend. Often, the gateway into friendship is two people sharing a common interest.  Delving deep - whether its like- you want light when its burning low, want the sun when its snow, or hate the roads when you miss home- to solve all your problems be it the silliest, and come to your immediate rescue is a dear friend. No matter what, friends at times, can be ‘ an apple of gold in a picture of silver.’

But is it always the same scene?? Its quite understandable that with time, relationships tend to fade away, with all getting busy in their day-day-day schedule. Alas!! Shouldn’t  be the case. In contrary, what hits ithe most is what are the  hallmarks of a good friendship??. Is it staying loyal to each other, encourage or cheer, or just spare a few minutes to listen. Yes, just listen. Lucky are those, who have listener in their lives. All you need at times is a listener.

They say, even  the best of friends make the worst enemies. Bitter but fact, it is of modern times. Opposition of any kind can make life miserable but opposition of a particular kind multiplies the misery. Too often, those we let near us in love leverage precious trust to serve themselves at our expense -just to betray us. In my most direful times  what I needed was my dear of dearest friends to show up, encourage me and tell me straight that whatever the matter, we are with you. As they say, these thoughts are just confined to books and words, same was mine. Those promises of a dear friend, made in culvert adda's, last bench of a classroom, more just over sharing a same bottle of coke all found to be erased in vain. When needed the most, a very few turned up. Guess what, irony is who were just friends were always by my side. 

As the saying goes, you grow more wiser when you grow old, or may be the other way,  you may recognize your friends when in despair. Nevertheless, friendship in order to run long, like any other relationship needs respect. Make sure the promise and respect fuel in our relationship runs till last breathe – healing very wounds and sharing the utmost joy.