Personality begins where Comparison Ends

No wonder, life at one point or the other is all about comparison. And, when it comes to comparison, it has no boundaries. His car, her looks, their marriage and children, and rest, we all fall in the trap of comparison. In a nutshell, comparing ourselves to others. Once Theodore Roosevelt, the 26th President of the US, said, "Comparison is the thief of Joy." With times, the word 'comparison' has become so popular amongst parents. Not lesser than a fact, in present times, it is deeply rooted in every individual parent's mindset. It is inculcated so deep that they want their kid to excel in everything. Without little knowledge to even trying to understand them. 

Every individual is born different, and their struggles are different. The high and lows, ups, and downs differ from human to human. Some might have a splendid childhood and for some the terrible ones. While growing up, for some, it might to quite easy to deal with new changing phases, but for another, it might turn out to be miserable and the worst memories ever. Remember, coping up with the situations and circumstances of life comes in play with thought-process. One can expect to mitigate rather than keeping high hopes of accomplishing them at the earliest possible time.

Benchmarks set-up in life is essential. As they allow us to determine our strength, weaknesses, and developmental milestones. But things go wrong when instead of observing an individual's growth and progress, and be an extended arm if required, parents often compare their child to their siblings or with another for being different. For instance, look at Sharma Ji's son; he is excellent in whatever he does. As he writes faster, he plays excellent music, scores high in exams, and so on. (Uff!! Being ideally honest, the list of comparing never ends).

In the rat-race of making the child excellent in all and everything, remember you can end up in making them 'Jack of all trades but master of none.' It's wise not to compare as the risk of identifying their uniqueness is high. The child might pose different skills, interests, personality traits, and abilities, which  will make them who they actually want. By continually comparing them would lead to anxiety and stress in them and might turn out to be vulnerable. Instead of being selfish, recognise, and celebrate the inherent strengths. Encourage them to pursue their interest and work towards achieving in holistic development and help them be a better human.

Unfortunately, comparisons are deeply entrenched in our society. Right from neighbors to close relatives, the child is invariably compared with others. All these tiny and unnoticeable parts of life might make them disappointed and disillusioned.